Two forgotten words

It’s crazy how times have changed. Men used to open doors for women. When adults were talking, children never interrupted and if they did they said, “Excuse me.” Elbows were never allowed on the table and you never, ever talked with food in your mouth. No one seemed to stare at people and point fingers directly at someone. You never talked loud in public and if you ever embarrassed your parents in the grocery store, there was a big price to pay when you got home. But what happened to saying the words “thank you?”

For the life of me, I cannot figure out when did that go out the window. I’m appalled by how people don’t say “thank you” anymore. When someone buys lunch for you, you’re supposed to say “thank you.” If you drop something and someone picks it up for you, you’re supposed to say “thank you.” If someone tells you that you look nice today, you say “thank you.” More common responses to the above gestures are “you owed me lunch anyway,” “these bones can’t bend like they used to” and “this old outfit?”

Thank you

Not trying to toot my horn here but I say “thank you” all the time. I probably say it too much and that’s probably why it stands out to me that so many people do not. And, I think it’s even worse when you have to ask someone to say “thank you” for something that you have done for them. So, this is the solicited “thank you.” If I have to ask someone to say “thank you” to me, then they weren’t going to say it anyway. They can keep that sorry “thank you” because it’s not heart felt.

Maybe I need to just accept the fact that the world is drastically changing. But, the next time someone does something for you, mind your manners and just say two words, “thank you.”

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Keep it in a book

I once heard a phrase that if you want to hide something from someone put it in a book. That one phrase kicked up my book reading to a whole new level. As you probably can tell I set some huge goals for myself this year one of which was to read 50 books. I usually read between 5 to 8 books a year. But this year, I’m not just going to read my normal fiction stories but educational books, historical books, health books and everything in between.

I have a huge thirst for knowledge and the best way to quench this thirst is to read. I have this big, huge brain which probably hasn’t even reached a 1/4 of its’ potential. It’s time to call my brain to its’ complete potential.

Yeah, I am one of those people who spends hours in the library. I have an iPod, a laptop, iPhone and an iPad but there is nothing that compares to sitting in a chair and holding a book in my hand. That cannot compare to anything being stored in my iCloud. Nothing compares to finding a really nice bookmark to hold your place. When I go to the library I come out with tons of books. Some people have shoe fetishes, I have a book fetish. I have to be surrounded with books. It’s just me.

I stumbled across an app to help me keep track of all the books that I have read. (Come on, I still need to use technology!) It’s called Goodreads. LOVE IT!!! I have about 5 books that I’m reading right now.

Many people ask me how do I choose new authors or subjects. Most of the subjects I read about are from subjects that I need more information about. Like I needed to get more information on working with customers so I picked up Lee Cockerell’s “The Customer Rules.” It’s an easy read from an experienced executive from Disney. I found this book on the new book shelf. I was browsing and it just jumped out at me. Love when this happens because now I have to read all the other books that he has written.

If you are not a book reader, you should consider picking up a book. You never know what’s been hiding from you.

Do you have stinking thinking?

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I think that it’s crazy how we limit ourselves with the negative self-talk that we do. Phrases like, “I could never…” or “If I was as smart as…”

One question for you: WHO LABELED YOU? Who was the dumb person that convinced you that you could never be nothing or amount to anything?

Self-esteem is something that can be developed by you. Change your attitude today. Change your outlook on life. Write down your dreams and visions. Discover your talents. Get out there and make it happen!

Here are some 6 tips to help you raise your self-esteem:
1. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.
2. Hang out with positive people.
3. Accept compliments and don’t knock them down.
4. Forgive yourself for things that you have done in the past.
5. Make a list of all your positive attributes.
6. Stop criticizing yourself.

Looking for feedback here. If there was one piece of advice that you could give to someone who was struggling with self esteem issues, what would it be?

The morning after

Have you ever did something so good and then you had to wake up the next morning?

I was up at 5am and out the door by 5:45am to take my one hour commute across town. I worked 11 hours today all to realize that nothing about today compared to my one week vacation that ended last night. I guess I made my vacation "too good": visiting friends, enjoying the beautiful mountains, sleeping in til I was ready to get up and even eating all the food I wanted and gaining the one, two or even three pounds. (lol)

But what could I have done to combat this dismal feeling that I experienced? Maybe I should have tried to have had a bad vacation. That's just dumb! But wait a minute. Could you imagine trying to make your vacation horrible so you don't come home happy? Could you imagine trying to make it terrible so the let down wouldn't be so devastating when you return back to your normal life? Is this brilliant?

I can just imagine the headline of that blog: How I had a horrible vacation…on purpose.

I need to blog

Can’t believe that it has been since October of 2012 that I last blogged. Where has the time gone? Something was missing in my life. I was frustrated and feeling incomplete. I lost some inner peace and then last month it dawned on me that I had gotten away from blogging.

There is something so therapeutic about blogging. Sitting down with everything imaginable going on around you and you in your own world, sitting there typing out whatever is going on in your head.

Love it! Can’t live without it.

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